We have all felt a bit down from time to time. We often call this ‘having the blues’. But how do we get ourselves back up after life has knocked us over?
Through some recent events, I felt very low. My heart was heavy. I did all the things I do when I am feeling low…I watched lots of television, I retreated from life, I ate lots of food and tried to comfort myself. But the truth is that it was when I came face to face with myself and really owned what was going on for me, speaking out to the causes of my misery, that I was able to bounce back.
I took the following steps to recover my equilibrium…
- I owned the problem.
I didn’t try to blame others, to ignore the issue or repress it. I named it and confronted it. I even confessed it to those I trust.
- I allowed my friends to encourage me.
Too often when we feel like this we isolate ourselves and we miss the opportunity to gain strength from those around us.
- I encouraged myself.
I listened to uplifting music. I made the choice to turn off the TV, to clean my desk so it was a clearer space and not so distracting. To view motivational videos that lifted my spirit. There is a verse in the bible, which I was surprised to hear quoted in the first motivational video I played on youtube.com and it is this, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
- I listened to my heart.
I asked my heart to tell me what it wanted and I wrote it down unedited. It is amazing how encouraging your own heart can be when you stop long enough to listen to it.
- I made a decision.
I made the choice not to be blue anymore. I chose my attitude. I chose to feel motivated, to feel inspired, to feel ready, to feel excited about life and to feel like I have a future and a purpose. Being negative is a choice, so why can’t being positive be a choice? If we can choose to moan, groan and complain, we can also choose to be excited, to be grateful and to compliment others. It was like I almost experienced an immediate lift in my spirit.
I am not suggesting that everyone will be able to bounce back as quickly as I have done. I still have a well of tears just beneath the surface that need to find expression, but I don’t feel the weight of the world sitting on my chest anymore.
Anyway, I hope this is helpful for you too. Just remember, if you are feeling blue, be honest and own your stuff. Use our group to find the encouragement that you need. Before I posted my cry for help, I really had to think things through…Did I want to be that vulnerable? Did I want others to know that I struggled? etc. These thoughts all went through my mind, but the overriding sense was that if I can’t own my stuff and be open and honest about it, then how can I expect others to do the same?
It is through our vulnerability that we build a pathway to recovery.