Recently I had to make a big decision. Torn, I really struggled. It wasn’t until I consulted with Life Coach, Debb Oxby, that I realised just how important something was to me and it made the choosing that much easier. You see, we sometimes get caught in our minds between what we should do and what we actually really desire to do.
Being a mother of four with a husband with an injury, I know that someone has to bring in the money. We’ve struggled for quite a while for this reason and when the going gets tough I usually lay down my own desires and sacrifice for the family, like so many other mothers.
What this has meant is that I have had to lay down my business several times to bring a steady income into the home. And each time it has crushed a little part of my soul.
So, faced with the decision between my business and a 30 hour a week, steady income job, I was torn. Part of me wanted the security of the income. Part of me wanted the security of the hours, as it would mean I was unavailable for other activities, like homeschooling my son or responding to my daughter’s needs, which has been frustrating at times.
But when it came down to it and Debb said something to me about giving the business up and I felt this deep pain shoot through me and I knew I just didn’t want to do it. That it was really important to me.
So, this led me to a bit of a discovery…perhaps I could simplify my choosing process by applying this test immediately to difficult situations. Perhaps I could just ask myself, “How would I feel if that was no longer a part of my life?” Or “How would I feel if that were no longer an option?”
At the end of the day, you only have one life. There is definitely a time for sacrificing and I am not saying that we shouldn’t sacrifice. There are times and seasons of sacrifice, but for me, I have spent a lifetime sacrificing and this is now my season of choice.
We all have one factor in common. We all have the power of choice. We can all choose a better way forward, even in difficult situations.
So I would encourage you to listen to your heart when you are making your choices. Your heart always knows what is right and if you feel conflicted, that is probably for a good reason!
I just thought I would share this discovery with you, just in case you are, like me, trying to make a difficult decision.