Sadly, we are never immune from pain, even when we are in our most healed state. We will always be vulnerable to pain. The best we can do is to understand why we feel pain, what causes it, so we can make choices that don’t allow pain into our lives too often.
Recent events have shown me that pain can strike us when we least expect it. And that if we are not prepared for it’s awful sting, then we are devastated by it.
So how do we pain-proof our lives?
- By choosing to be a peacemaker in life. Jesus said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God.” So what does it mean to be a peacemaker? Does it mean you need to become a doormat for others to wipe their feet upon? No. It means that you love and delight in peace and that you keep the peace and when it is broken you work to restore it. I saw this in my husband today. We had a bit of a difficult scenario with a child with anxiety that was causing us a lot of heartache. I saw my husband work diligently to restore the peace. At no point was he being a doormat. I saw him exhibit strength and self-control beyond what I myself was capable of in that moment.
- By choosing not to fight with others. If you don’t fight, you can’t get hurt and as my mother always taught me, ‘It takes two to tango.” Don’t engage!
- By taking care of your body. Pain is not only emotional, it can also be physical. Give your body the right fuel, the right exercise and the right rest and the rest takes care of itself.
- By being organised. Chaos wants to create pain in our lives. Chaos wants us to be late to events, to let people down, to not be able to find things and to become frustrated and hurt. But we can fight chaos with order. Order wants us to be able to commit and follow through with our commitments, to be able to deliver what is required when it is needed with the least amount of strife. Let order win in your life.
- By guarding our hearts. Our hearts are central to our well-being. We can guard our hearts by taking every negative thought captive and applying the ‘you don’t belong here’ clause by counteracting it’s impact with positive thoughts.
- By holding things loosely. When we are flexible in life, we don’t break like when we are rigid. Hold your plans, your possessions, your points of view lightly. Be flexible and you won’t experience as much pain as when you are insisting your way is the only way.
- By allowing yourself to be spiritually guided in life. The day that I allowed God a look in was the day that I halved my pain, if not reduced it more than half. Jesus came to heal the broken-hearted and that works beautifully for me because I was full of pain when I met him.
- Keep short accounts with others. If you do something done, don’t beat yourself up about it, go and make it right.
- By knowing when to walk away from bad relationships. You never have to stay in a situation that hurts you. There is always an option to leave and there are always people who will help you if you reach out to them.
So there are some keys to pain-proofing your life. I’d love to hear your thoughts and strategies, so please comment below.